“Being a mom goes beyond a blood tie”
I was a foster mother for about 18 months for 6 kiddos. I had no idea how to be a mother, but with time, I learned. A lot of things happened, I cried many times, I felt myself deteriorating many times. But everyday that would pass, I’d fall more in love with my kiddos. My love for them helped me get up when I felt like I couldn't anymore.
All of a sudden, during a visit from my caseworker, she told us that the kiddos parents had been 3 months sober and they were ready to be reunited. It was very traumatic for me and the kids. It was a huge change for all of us. I still remember how the older kiddo would hug me and say that he loved his parents so much but that he didn't want to live with them anymore.
They returned to their parents in December 2021, I didn't get to see them again until February 2022, on my wedding day. Time passed and around July, the mother got in contact with me, asking if I could care for *Sarah*. How could I just say no? After weeks of caring for her, the mother one day just leaves her with me. Never came back for her. I was scared. I didn't know what to do. I had noticed that the parents had started doing drugs again. I contemplated calling CPS for so long. I didn't want the other kiddos being in that environment.
To this day, I regret not making that call. I found out earlier this year that the family moved to California. That's when I searched for help through Foster Kinship to get Guardianship over *Sarah*. Thank you to Sandy, she helped me get Guardianship over her. I felt so bad that she was separated from her siblings, but I would much rather have her here with me where she isnt in those conditions anymore. I live with the fear that one day, her parents will come and try to terminate the Guardianship and she’ll end up suffering in the care of them.
I believe this story is not done yet. I’ll be ready for when the rest of *Sarah’s* siblings come back into my care. I know I still have to learn so much from God and from life but for now, the biggest lesson I've learned so far is that the love for a child goes way beyond anything. That same love gives you the strength to handle the worst that is to come, and makes you understand that the bad things happen for a reason and it’ll end up giving you a great life lesson. It's worth mentioning that I am a transexual woman and sometimes, my friends and even my family have said that they wouldn't grant me *Sarah’s* guardianship due to my sexual identity. That's how i know this story will still continue - Shared from “Being a mom goes beyond a blood tie”
*Child’s name changed to protect her privacy*