Nurturing Change: Taming Violent Behavior in Kids
Parenting can be a rollercoaster ride, complete with ups, downs, and the occasional loop-de-loop. But what happens when the ride takes an unexpected turn into the realm of violent behavior in kids? Fear not, because Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI®) is here to guide you through the labyrinth.
First things first: safety. If things get out of hand, prioritize safety for all involved. It's okay to step away and seek help when needed.
Picture this: a strong, trust-filled bond that bridges the gap between you and your child. That's the essence of TBRI®. Show empathy, respect their feelings, and let them know you're a reliable ally. When they realize you're in their corner, it makes a world of difference.
Violence often stems from trauma. TBRI® acknowledges this. It’s like understanding the backstory of a movie character's actions. Addressing past traumas through counseling or therapy helps your child heal.
Ever notice how certain situations light the fuse for violent behavior? Those are the triggers. Identifying them together and creating strategies to manage them is crucial.
Kids need what I like to call emotional karate or self-regulation skills. Teach them to harness their emotions through deep breathing, mindfulness, and sensory tools. It's like handing them a shield against the storm.
Anger isn't bad; it's human. But how it's expressed can make all the difference. Equip your child with alternative outlets like problem-solving, conflict resolution, or a simple heart-to-heart chat.
Model healthy expressions. Children learn by observing, so demonstrate how to express anger in a healthy way. Maybe that looks like we scream into a pillow together or engage in a healthy physical activity like going for a walk, run, or shooting hoops. Maybe it looks like we bang on pots and pans like their drums. Each child’s need to express anger will be unique, and it’s okay to embrace and learn to cope with difficult feelings.
Routine is the anchor of stability. A consistent schedule and clear expectations provide comfort and a roadmap through the day.
Catch them being good. Praise, reward, and reinforce positive behaviors. It's like giving them a thumbs-up on the path to change.
Involve your child in finding solutions. Collaborative problem-solving empowers them, turning struggles into learning opportunities.
Sometimes, despite all your efforts, things don’t fall into place. That's when the cavalry – mental health professionals – ride in. Their expertise can provide new insights and fresh strategies
Managing violent behavior in children isn't a one-size-fits-all endeavor. It’s a personalized journey guided by TBRI®. Remember, it's not just about taming the storm but helping your child sail through it with resilience, growth, and a future brimming with positive change.