Keep in mind that children who come from challenging backgrounds, such as those who are adopted, have experienced abuse, or struggle with attachment issues, often struggle to express themselves, which can erode their sense of safety and trust in adults. It's crucial to respond effectively to their behaviors, matching the level of response to the situation at hand. Overreacting to minor issues can escalate behaviors further.
Here are some strategies aimed at ensuring children feel heard and supported by safe adults, outlined by the TBRI Levels of Response:
Playful Engagement (Level 1):
Structured Engagement (Level 2):
Calming Engagement (Level 3):
Protective Engagement (Level 4):
The goal of employing these levels is to encourage children to express their needs verbally rather than through challenging behaviors. The emphasis should be on fostering communication, trust, and mutual understanding between caregivers and children. Remember, the levels serve as guidelines, and the priority is always to nurture a positive connection and guide children toward the appropriate expression of their needs, ultimately aiming to return to a state of Playful Engagement where both parties feel content and connected. If you want to know more about TBRI® please come to one of our three class series and learn more tools together with other caregivers going through what you are going through. Call 702-546-9988 or email firstname.lastname@example.org to ask about the next class series.